Cyrsti's Condo: Unconditional Love?

A really good read on the CD/TS perception of what the spouse must think.  Unconditional? or....

Cyrsti's Condo: Unconditional Love?

LET'S RAISE OUR HANDS!

I'm curious.  How many readers are married to a crossdresser?   Please, raise your hand.  I know it's hard to allow yourself to be counted but this IS the internet.    No one will ever know you raised your hand here unless you tell them.  Right?  Well, that's a maybe. So.....how many of us are able to raise our hands?

Me.....I still pause, look around me and decide.....who am I with?  Is this ok?  Is there anyone around right now that may recognize me?  Does that matter to me?  Do I need to consult with my husband before I raise my hand?  Does he need to know I'm telling someone about myself?which, in essence, is telling someone about him.

WE LOVE SHOES

We love shoes! boots!, you name it, if it goes on our feet, we love it!

Check these Out 

I wonder how they will be to walk in?  I don't think I would want to wear them out in the snow.  

WHAT IS TOO SEXY?

My husband is the type of crossdresser who over-sexualizes women.  The way he likes to dress is extremely sexy, over the top!  Shoulda been in Playboy!  Wow!  For me, this is my husband, showing all this to

KRIS KARDASHIAN IS A CLASS ACT

Can we all just slow down a second and take a deep breath here.....when I saw Caitlyn for the first time, I sobbed.  The tears were so mixed and confusing.  I was overwhelmed with joy for this person who finally had somewhat come to terms with who they were.  It was beautiful to see.  The other side of the tears where my deep, guarded feelings for his ex-wife, Kris Kardashian. 

What about this crossdressers wife?  She's being asked for comments and then, when she does, shes being accused of making this about herself!  People, we make this "about" her when we ask for comments.  This WAS her life for 23 years!  So personal and private her struggle has been.  Who is

ANGEL AND MARIA'S BLOG - NOT

**ALERTS** WE NEVER DID ANYTHING WITH THIS BLOG.  JUST A FEW SHORT OPINIONS AND IT'S JUST NOT READING MATERIAL.  THE STORY DOESN'T END WELL SO I AM GOING TO JUST POST MY JOURNEY HERE ON MY BLOG.**  THERE NEVER WAS AN "ANGEL & MARIA", IT WAS ALL AN ILLUSION OF WHAT WAS REAL.

It's been over a year now that I began my blog and in it, I refer to a blog that Angel and I intended on doing together.  Angel and Maria's Tantalizing Tips and Tell-Tale Teachings..... of a Crossdresser and His Wife.  To date, we haven't done a thing on it well,..... now is the time.

Let me give you a little background, just a month after I started my blog here, we were evicted from an apartment we lived in back in Utah.  We strongly believed it was due to my husband's trans* inclinations.  We couldn't really prove it and as of

A CHILDHOOD FRIEND

I have, what I would call, an unusual recollection of a random occurrence of a portion of my childhood that has been popping into my head lately that I would like to share.  Then I wonder, "Has it all been leading up to my meeting my soulmate?"

You tell me.

I was very, very young.  Under five.  My father was gone in the Vietnam War.  My mother and I were staying in a town where my mom's family was abundant.  She was surrounded by her support system.

DOES IT MATTER?

If it matters to me, does it matter to you?  If we are married, should it matter to you?  I am always asking that question to myself.  What matters to him, always matters to me.  I take interest in what's important to him.  And I take into account how he may feel about what I wear in public.  

So, I ask, if you are going out in public or allowing people who come to the house when she is present,  should the way he is dressed concern me?  For me, yes it does concern me and when I feel he is dressed too provocative, I say something to him.  It disturbs me greatly when he pushes this envelope.  His pat response to me is, "they already know how I am."  Or, "They've already seen me in this outfit."  I cannot make my point more clear how important it is to honor and respect your wife.  That does matter!

How Am I Supposed To Do This?

How am I supposed to do this?  How is a wife supposed to feel?  Her man tells her, I'm gonna be dressing and taking video and pictures tonight, with or without you.  She decides to dress tonight, asks me if I will join then, right away, turns her back before I even have a chance to answer.  She gets dressed, changes attitude and here we go, it's on.

First, she positions herself across from me with her back to me, making sure she has a mirror to look into.  OK, fine. Narcissit.

SHOES

              

I love shoes.  Before I retired, I had a shoe for every occassion, color-coded to corresponding outfits which matched every scarf that enhanced the focal point to be.  Always on the lookout to maximize my fashion potential to my audience.  Whether it be the grocery store or the office, I was dressed to the nines.
Angel, on the other hand, would get my hand me downs.  How must that feel to always have the seconds.  To top it off, they where too small or too large  and didn't necessarily reflect her style and taste, it reflected mine.  

As we embark on this journey, I am finding out that she wants to own, MINIMUM, the SAME amount of SHOES I used to have.  Problem being, money and space.  My footwear has been banished to a storage box large enough for about 8 pairs.  I have relinquished my space and, yes, I conceded here.  She has never had the space to explore and grow her own personality.  Since the tables are a wee bit turned right now, I can see how she must have felt when her shoes were in a closet, hidden from the sunlight.

I've always been on the lookout for affordable things for my crossdresser and myself so we could both enjoy ourselves without breaking the bank.  I have always felt so guilty when I would get mysef a sexy pair of shoes and she didn't so now, w each get a pair when we are able to buy and they are affordable!

So, I like the zebra, she likes the black and white ones.  Which ones do you like?

BRUCE JENNER

 **REVISED** the post a wee bit.....
First off, I would like to commend Bruce Jenner for his courage with going public but then again, PET PEEVE Another Reality Show? (heavy sigh 'cause I know I'll watch).  and always, I've got a CLICHE - And the Rich get Richer!  My apologies, I just had to spit that out because it's really what I think.

SIDE NOTE:  So, rich, getting richer rich people, maybe with rthe riches you could help a few of my trans* friends get the surgeries they so desperately need and may

never be able to afford?  Let's put it out there. Jenner's and Kardashians, do you wanna try it again?  Let's Break the Internet!  Kim K. we need you honey, help us #BreakTheInternetForChange.

Bruce is a role model to many Americans and as he opens the rest of his life up to the world, this time he's gonna let us stick a knife in his gut and lay him wide open.  I think this is gonna hurt, emotionally.   Then,... I think,... what about all the emotional paid he's ALREADY suffered.

MY MERMAID

I just want ya'll to know, I love my husband and would do anything for him.  I knowingly became a crossdressers wife.  I've done everything he's ever asked of me until..... I began to question my own significance. Am I valued?  More importantly, do they value me?  In both of the worlds we live in?  (the "normal" vs. crossdressing world)  To what extent?  Was I put on earth to only serve him and his desires?   When do I decide for me what's right for me, what satisfies my sexual appetite?   

For me, the crossdressing was and still is 100% about the intimate relationship he and I have with one another.  And the sex!  Kinda like my Boots!  Did I mention sex?
I married him.  This was my second marriage.  The first one was physically and emotionally abusive, old news, I gotta bad picker when it comes to men.  I did the divorce

SMILE

"Smile don't frown, Look up don't look down

Believe in yourself, Don't let yourself go

Just be who you are  

And let your life flow..”          Kirstie Alley

THE YARDSTICK

I've always enjoyed cliches.  Whenever I hear one, I ponder the meaning of the words, carefully dissecting each word then, putting them together, forming the phrase.  What, exactly, was the image the speaker or writer wanted to get across to me?  Did it make any sense at all in the context it was used?  Sometimes, yes and sometimes, not at all.

Here's one.  It came to me while I was getting ready for the day this morning.  "What is the measure of a man?"  Hmmmm.  Ok.  By what

IT'S BOOT WEATHER

I know I talked about shoes but.....have I mentioned my perpensity for Boots?  I have found some of the most inexpensive, good quality BOOTS! for Angel and I to enjoy.

We are both like bulls in a china closet andreally hard on our stuff so, I have to be the forever bargain hunter.  Always got my eyes out for what's on sale or how we can make an outfit out of something else.  This week, we ordered these:

MARILYN MONROE

ACCOMODATING ANGEL

I've been thinking alot about my life with my crossdresser and how it's been for me.  The best terminology I can think of right now is profound.  Life, in and of itself, is profound.  In the beginning, I knew about his crossdressing.  He invited me to participate and play, which I did, joyfully and enthusiastically.  He would crossdress from the gaff, panties, bra, lingerie, garter belt, nylons to a full outfit on the top.  I would do the same, with instruction from him.

COMPROMISE OR CONCEDE?

COMPROMISE or CONCEDE?

As life goes.....it's a give and take thing, isn't it?  NOW,  Add crossdressing.....then.....marraige.

Whoever you are and whatever you do, do we have to compromise (that is, to give up a part of ourselves) to be together or can we be together and have it all?  We can have it all, if we acknowledge each other then.....Concede to the obvious.....Each

LOVE

LOVE...

"They say love is the best investment; the more you give, the more you get in return."

           --AUDREY HEPBURN

HAP-PENIS

Our pursuit of...

Happenis (Photo credit: carnagenyc)

Happiness .... translated                  HapPENIS!

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