I always get worried when Angel decides she wants to go out at night. Which is every time Angel comes around. She wants to dress how she wants to dress and doesn’t listen to reason. On this particular night, she was being a little more reasonable. She put on pants and her regular click-clackity heels and went on the normal walk to the corner store. It’s, of course, the middle of the night. That’s when she comes out. Sometimes, she can be gone as long as an hour and a half. I’ve learned not to get too worried about it and just trust and have a little faith.
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Wednesday, May 14, 2014
MARRIAGE BAN LIFTED IN IDAHO
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MISCELLANEOUS
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Federal judge knocks Idaho's same-sex marriage ban - http://t.co/AjPwOBzRKp
— QSaltLake Magazine (@QSaltLake) May 14, 2014 ">
I'd suspect our State of Utah won't be too far behind. So..... something to look into
(NOTE TO SELF): What is the law when your crossdressing husband decides later on in life he's transgendered and completes his "Change", are you still married here? As of today, there is a ban on same sex marriages therefore, therefore, do they go back 30 years and annul your marriage?
Something else that popped in my mind just then..... I'd no longer have the stigma of being a crossdressers wife. Bwahahaha.
But, then again, I also wouldn't have the stigma of being
"The Wife"!
I should make a new tab..... NOTES TO SELF.
Saturday, May 10, 2014
A CROSSDRESSER....."WHAT'S THAT MEAN?"
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SELF REFLECTIONS
By Maria Harding
I was told, in great detail, what it was to be a crossdresser. When I first found out my soon-to-be spouse was a crossdresser, I wanted to know everything I could about it. "Are you mentally ill?", I had to ask..... And, if so..... "Can you be fixed?" or..... "Is it a habit, and if so, can you just give up the habit?" No, No and No. OK. I had to confirm what he was telling me so I went to the library to research the subject. I couldn't find anything on the subject. Of Course, I am in Utah and this was the 80's and before the Internet. Times are a changin' though.Friday, May 9, 2014
MORE SHOES that I LOVE.
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FOOTWEAR
By Maria Harding
If you don't know by now, it's Boots and Shoes that we love. And.....we are on a strict budget so we can't spend alot of money!
HUSBAND OR WIFE
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MARRIED LIFE
By Maria Harding
I get these mixed messages these days. I ponder our life together and wonder, where did we go wrong? More importantly, where did I go wrong? Is anyone to blame and can this situation be fixed?
He tells me one day he is transgendered and just wants to live however he wants and decide each day if he’s a man or woman. OK. I got over that and I can live with that. What I can’t wrap myself around is how, one minute, I’m with my husband….. the next minute, it’s her. Please note…I did not say “wife”….. Let me take a short little detour here and tell you about the terminology “wife”, when referring to Angel. We always talked about getting married again. Our first marriage wasn’t anything elaborate. Just a Judge came to our house, we did vows and had a little cake. (We had dressed up the night before!)
As the years passed, we became closer . I was gaining a deep, personal and intimate portrait of this person I married. It deepened my love for him and that he would trust me with all these inner thoughts. We said Angel and myself would, one day, have another wedding ceremony. We both would wear wedding dresses and re-affirm our vows to each other, this time as the other side.
He has been telling me all these years how Angel would wear white and I would wear black. I would just laugh but recently, it hit me kinda funny. Why do I wear black to re-affirm my vows to the person I love? No, we could both wear whatever the hell colors we want. After all, isn’t that what this is supposed to be about, finding your true, authentic self.
Back to the ceremony, I got down on one knee and proposed a few months ago to her. She said yes so, I somewhat started to envision the event. While looking around for ideas, I found some photos of a wedding and re-posted on Google +. https://plus.google.com/108645756729229654936/posts/7sP4Rur9y2B When he saw the photos, he said, “Angel will NEVER marry YOU!”
He says he wants to be remain my husband but when he is she, she says she also wants to remain, not wife. Just remain. I get so confused. I am patient. I am understanding and compassionate. When the lines of communication were open and he was telling me what he was thinking and feeling, I also has great empathy and it helped me to be reassured I am loved 100%. Now, there is no talking. He won’t tell me what he is thinking so, I can only go by what he’s doing.
I take it as a personal attack sometimes when he comes out in front of people dressed slutty. He is my partner. To me, that’s putting it out there. If you wanna stay married, you don’t put yourself out there as available. I think I may have just said what I need to get through my head, “He” is my partner. And, let me tell you, he is struggling. I keep trying to get him or her to open up and talk to me but they won’t. Oh my goodness, I just said “they”. I had told myself I wouldn’t refer to him as “they”.
For now, he is my Husband. She is someone that is finding her way and, hell, I don’t know….. She needs her space to grow? I am trying to leave her alone and let her find herself.
So, for now, I will leave it at that. He is my Husband. For him (and her) I feel eternally blessed and am truly a better person for having known him.
I get these mixed messages these days. I ponder our life together and wonder, where did we go wrong? More importantly, where did I go wrong? Is anyone to blame and can this situation be fixed?
He tells me one day he is transgendered and just wants to live however he wants and decide each day if he’s a man or woman. OK. I got over that and I can live with that. What I can’t wrap myself around is how, one minute, I’m with my husband….. the next minute, it’s her. Please note…I did not say “wife”….. Let me take a short little detour here and tell you about the terminology “wife”, when referring to Angel. We always talked about getting married again. Our first marriage wasn’t anything elaborate. Just a Judge came to our house, we did vows and had a little cake. (We had dressed up the night before!)
As the years passed, we became closer . I was gaining a deep, personal and intimate portrait of this person I married. It deepened my love for him and that he would trust me with all these inner thoughts. We said Angel and myself would, one day, have another wedding ceremony. We both would wear wedding dresses and re-affirm our vows to each other, this time as the other side.
He has been telling me all these years how Angel would wear white and I would wear black. I would just laugh but recently, it hit me kinda funny. Why do I wear black to re-affirm my vows to the person I love? No, we could both wear whatever the hell colors we want. After all, isn’t that what this is supposed to be about, finding your true, authentic self.
Back to the ceremony, I got down on one knee and proposed a few months ago to her. She said yes so, I somewhat started to envision the event. While looking around for ideas, I found some photos of a wedding and re-posted on Google +. https://plus.google.com/108645756729229654936/posts/7sP4Rur9y2B When he saw the photos, he said, “Angel will NEVER marry YOU!”
He says he wants to be remain my husband but when he is she, she says she also wants to remain, not wife. Just remain. I get so confused. I am patient. I am understanding and compassionate. When the lines of communication were open and he was telling me what he was thinking and feeling, I also has great empathy and it helped me to be reassured I am loved 100%. Now, there is no talking. He won’t tell me what he is thinking so, I can only go by what he’s doing.
I take it as a personal attack sometimes when he comes out in front of people dressed slutty. He is my partner. To me, that’s putting it out there. If you wanna stay married, you don’t put yourself out there as available. I think I may have just said what I need to get through my head, “He” is my partner. And, let me tell you, he is struggling. I keep trying to get him or her to open up and talk to me but they won’t. Oh my goodness, I just said “they”. I had told myself I wouldn’t refer to him as “they”.
For now, he is my Husband. She is someone that is finding her way and, hell, I don’t know….. She needs her space to grow? I am trying to leave her alone and let her find herself.
So, for now, I will leave it at that. He is my Husband. For him (and her) I feel eternally blessed and am truly a better person for having known him.
Monday, May 5, 2014
I’M LOOKING FORWARD TO
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FRIENDSHIP
I am looking forward to the day when my friend and I can 
“dress” together again. He is always talking about how much he is looking forward to “dressing” yet…the fact of the matter is, he is always dressing so…WTF?
“dress” together again. He is always talking about how much he is looking forward to “dressing” yet…the fact of the matter is, he is always dressing so…WTF? Where do I fit in. I can tell you where I used to be. But…Change is Inevitable.
We used to set a date and decide where we were going to go. The buildup was phenomenal. We each had at least a week to plan and get our outfits together, what special sexy something we were going to surprise each other with. It was awesome.
I knew he wanted to be with me. Now, we don’t even have sex anymore. Forget about lingerie or something sexy. If I put something seductive on, he just goes into the closet and puts on his own stuff. I feel invisible when this happens.
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