Can we all just slow down a second and take a deep breath here.....when I saw Caitlyn for the first time, I sobbed. The tears were so mixed and confusing. I was overwhelmed with joy for this person who finally had somewhat come to terms with who they were. It was beautiful to see. The other side of the tears where my deep, guarded feelings for his ex-wife, Kris Kardashian.
What about this crossdressers wife? She's being asked for comments and then, when she does, shes being accused of making this about herself! People, we make this "about" her when we ask for comments. This WAS her life for 23 years! So personal and private her struggle has been. Who is
she supposed to talk to? She is absolutely justified and entitled to her feelings and her questions. You know what else? She deserves answers to those questions.
I never did keep up with the Kardashians however, I watched severals episodes back in 2012 and 2013. I spotted the passive-aggressive behavior right off the bat. It was apparent to me Mr. Jenner was extremely unhappy with himself and lashing out at Kris.
Then, he changed his mind about being a crossdresser. I guess it just slipped his mind to let his wife know he was really a woman. Crossdressers.....tell your wife. She loves you.
I acknowledge the fact that you have been confused and are coming to terms with yourself and figuring out who you are. You are allowed to change your mind here. It's ok. I love you.
Of course Bruce was miserable. He was living a lie, sneaking around behind his wifes back and lying to people he loved. This is not Kris' fault.
In my first paragraph, I said Caitlyn had "somewhat" come to terms with herself, "somewhat" because I have yet to hear her talk about her years of shutting out her wife, Kris.
When my crossdresser would decide to dress, he would blame it on me, saying, "I asked if we could dress that day and you said no so.....I had to.....dress and.....(insert whatever he decided to do)". What he would do was go behind my back, sneaking, lying, disappearing, and, of course, dressing. Always, coinciding with some engagement we were committed to. He would miss family events, important business meetings, maybe a date with me. Yeah, it pissed me right off! Then, I had to make the excuses and keep the secret. Passive-aggressive? To say the least.
I would love to hear from wives who have been living this life. Let's stand up and be counted too. We wives are human beings too with great capacity to love, regardless of gender. You do NOT know if I will understand until you give me the opportunity to.
Leave Kris alone. She isn't evil. She loved this ex-crossdresser who changed his mind. He neglected to tell her and allow her make her own choices. He proceeded on with his life now we all wanna know what she thinks? What is she supposed to think? She was blind-sided by a Mack Truck. She's picking up pieces of herself and trying to process a 23 year marriage, trying to figure out what part was real. It was all real and he treated you just the way he did.
I am profoundly hurt and so, so very sorry that yet another crossdresser's wife is being made out to be a bitch. Bitch, Please!
My sincerest apologies to you, Kris Kardashian, for all your suffering, for all those years of dedication to him. I know you loved him, stood by him and suffered for him because you knew he was struggling then he shut you out.
My heart breaks for Kris because, love is love. Kris knows that, Caitlyn says she loves Kris and what can she do to make it better for Kris? Huh? Isn't it a little late to have that conversation? Apologize.
He says she mistreated him??!! Really? Hmmm..... I'm just sayin'.
Please, please, crossdressers, just tell us the truth. Let us wives make our own choices. And unless we can be more compassionate about what Kris is going through, let's just leave her alone.
It's just unfortunate there are too many of us wives too afraid to come out and stand with you. Just know this, Kris, I am with you.
Kris Kardashian, you are a class act!
Bruce Jenner was an amazing person. Through dint of will and hard work he came from a suburban town to become the world's greatest athlete inspiring thousands and bring joy to many.
ReplyDeleteHe was loved by all of his wives and none seem to have a bad word to say about him or harbor ill will. He helped raised 10 children, six of his own and four stepchildren. They all seem to love and respect him and have reached some personal degree of acceptance of Cate.
Living a life in the glare of the public eye has its downsides. I wish Cate well going forward.
I never lose sight of the fact that people love who they love and that it is never all good or all bad. Surely there are issues for women who love or are in relationships with men with gender issues. I love my wife and count my blessings daily that she loves me. I know she did not sign on to be married to a CD but we both take the "for better or worse" vow seriously.
Good luck to you and I agree with your comments about Kris.
Pat
I have nothing but respect and admiration for Caitlyn. It is my hope we can all learn from her experiences and not forget nor minimize the journey her ex-wife is on. Unfortunately, there are one too many wives that end up collateral damage. If we could just learn to be forthcoming and truthful with our spouses, perhaps some of the pain could be minimized.
ReplyDeleteI don't follow the Kardashians, and have managed to avoid a lot of the current celebrity publicity train, but ~ from my own personal experience I may have some regrets about lost time while I was trying to work out who and what I am. I may have some regrets for things I missed or opportunities not taken, but the one real, serious regret that I have is how I treated my wife. She loved me and cherished me, yet I lied to her, she justifiably felt cheated and betrayed. I know that being sorry is never going to be enough and that I damaged our relationship for ever, So take the excellent advise given here and TELL YOUR WIFE!
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